30 Happy Words!

If you are having trouble falling asleep at night (or getting back to sleep after the 3:33 am awakening), try going through the alphabet and thinking of a happy word that starts with each letter to describe yourself. Before each word, think in your head, “I am…”  If you think of more than one for each letter, it’s OK. This is your exercise. The only rules are the ones you choose!

You can also gift yourself with one word to use repeatedly throughout each day of the month. In addition, this exercise works well when you are trying to turn your thoughts to positive about someone with whom you are in a challenging relationship. Instead of thinking “I am” before each word, insert the person’s name.

Here are some examples:

  1. Amazing
  2. Blessed
  3. Beautiful
  4. Creative
  5. Compassionate
  6. Divine
  7. Empathetic
  8. Fun
  9. Generous
  10. Helpful
  11. Inspirational
  12. Joyful
  13. Kind
  14. Loving
  15. Mindful
  16. Nurturing
  17. Open-minded
  18. Peaceful
  19. Positive
  20. Quality
  21. Respectful
  22. Responsible
  23. Selfless
  24. Thankful
  25. Understanding
  26. Valuable
  27. Wise
  28. XO (full of Hugs and Kisses!)
  29. YAY!
  30. Zany

Choose Positive, KJ

Two to Tango

One Sunday I couldn’t shake a low energy feeling of annoyance. I allowed every little thing my daughter did (or didn’t) do irritate me. I finally said out loud to my husband, “Why am I on such a rampage toward her? She’s a good kid, but I feel so critical of her today.” Hearing my own words sparked an idea. I headed upstairs to her room and kindly asked if she was angry and having negative thoughts about me. She stared at me in disbelief momentarily and then put her head down and slumped her shoulders. I told her that I could feel all the negative energy she was putting out to me and that in order for us to have a good relationship, she needed to somehow find a way to turn those thoughts to positive. She awesomely gets it when I talk energy-stuff to her and by the end of the day, I didn’t feel like I wanted to pounce on her for every little thing she said or did!

Choose Positive, KJ

Do Unto Others


In her #1 New York Times Bestseller, E-Squared, Pam Grout says, “Look through the whole Bible and nowhere does Jesus say worship me. His call to us was follow me.”  In other words, Jesus was trying to tell us to do what he does, and just like him, we are all capable of producing acts of kindness and miracles. Miracles in relationships are based on the Golden Rule- do unto others, as you’d have done unto yourself.  Most of us take this literally, in the connotation of the physical world: don’t hit, don’t steal, don’t yell, don’t cheat, and don’t kill. What if simply having the thought actually produces a similar outcome? With that in mind, would you want other people having negative thoughts about you? If not, why do we allow ourselves to judge and find fault in others within the confines of our own minds? The people unto whom we project the criticisms are the same ones with whom we find it difficult to have amicable relationships. Stephenie Meyer created a fictional vampire, Edward, in her #1 New York Times bestselling Twilight Saga books. Edward could “hear” what people around him were thinking. If we realized that our internal thoughts could be heard by others, would we be more accountable for cleaning up what goes on in our own heads? Maybe just being careful about what we say isn’t enough. Perhaps we need to be cautious (and courteous) about what we think as well!

Choose Positive, KJ